I was raised that when you meet someone you put your best foot forward. You make sure you look just so. You make sure you say "yes sir", "no sir", "yes ma'am" and "no ma'am". You shake their hand and you are super respectful. Basically it's a whole southern show going on over here when I meet someone new. It's like the definition of a job interview except you are interviewing for a role in that person's life. But are they interviewing for a role in your life as well?
I have never really thought about this until a few minutes ago. When I meet someone I am so focused on what they will think of me as a person and whether or not I will fit into their lives that it never dawned on me to see if they even fit into mine. Now most of the time the people that we meet will fit just fine, but why haven't I ever thought about it. I think that we try so hard to fit in and to impress that we forget that we are just as valuable. What I mean by that is that we are putting the people that we meet on a sort of pedestal when we meet them. We are trying to impress and we are focused on that. However, there is a whole other side to this as well. When we meet someone this is a two way street. Not only are we supposed to make sure that we put our best foot forward but that we are seeing theirs as well. Not only are we looking for a role in their life but we also need to be looking to see if they should have a role in ours. We deserve to give ourselves the same attention and focus when meeting someone new as we give them. How do they fit? Where do they fit? Do they totally not fit? This is how I see that we end up around people sometimes that we wonder, "how did I ever get mixed up with this person?" How we did is because when we had our first meeting we forgot to see them. Remember!!!! You are important! Your life, your opinions matter. I'm going to make sure that I take a harder look when I am meeting new people to make sure that they fit in my life while I'm showing them my best self to see if I fit in theirs. Let's do this and let's talk about it. Does the change in perspective change anything? #southernmorningcoffee